Science-proof happiness

Beth Cooper writes in FastCompany 10 science backed ways to be happier.   

There are plenty of familiar suggestions - exercise more, sleep more, spend time with friends and family more. But here are a few I found particularly surprising:

1) Move Closer to Work - A short commute is worth more than a big house

According to The Art of Manliness, having a long commute is something we often fail to realize will affect us so dramatically:

… while many voluntary conditions don’t affect our happiness in the long term because we acclimate to them, people never get accustomed to their daily slog to work because sometimes the traffic is awful and sometimes it’s not. Or as Harvard psychologist Daniel Gilbert put it, “Driving in traffic is a different kind of hell every day.”

We tend to try to compensate for this by having a bigger house or a better job, but these compensations just don’t work:

Two Swiss economists who studied the effect of commuting on happiness found that such factors could not make up for the misery created by a long commute. 

 

2) Plan A Trip - but don't take one

As opposed to actually taking a holiday, it seems that planning a vacation or just a break from work can improve our happiness. A study published in the journal, Applied Research in Quality of Life showed that the highest spike in happiness came during the planning stage of a vacation as employees enjoyed the sense of anticipation:

In the study, the effect of vacation anticipation boosted happiness for eight weeks.

After the vacation, happiness quickly dropped back to baseline levels for most people.

Shawn Achor has some info for us on this point, as well:

One study found that people who just thought about watching their favorite movie actually raised their endorphin levels by 27 percent.

If you can’t take the time for a vacation right now, or even a night out with friends, put something on the calendar--even if it’s a month or a year down the road. Then whenever you need a boost of happiness, remind yourself about it.

 

3) Help Others - 100 hours a year is the magical number

One of the most counterintuitive pieces of advice I found is that to make yourself feel happier, you should help others. In fact, 100 hours per year (or two hours per week) is the optimal time we should dedicate to helping others in order to enrich our lives.

If we go back to Shawn Achor’s book again, he says this about helping others:

…when researchers interviewed more than 150 people about their recent purchases, they found that money spent on activities—such as concerts and group dinners out—brought far more pleasure than material purchases like shoes, televisions, or expensive watches. Spending money on other people, called “prosocial spending,” also boosts happiness.

The Journal of Happiness Studies published a study that explored this very topic:

Participants recalled a previous purchase made for either themselves or someone else and then reported their happiness. Afterward, participants chose whether to spend a monetary windfall on themselves or someone else. Participants assigned to recall a purchase made for someone else reported feeling significantly happier immediately after this recollection; most importantly, the happier participants felt, the more likely they were to choose to spend a windfall on someone else in the near future.

So spending money on other people makes us happier than buying stuff for ourselves. What about spending our time on other people? A study of volunteering in Germanyexplored how volunteers were affected when their opportunities to help others were taken away:

Shortly after the fall of the Berlin Wall but before the German reunion, the first wave of data of the GSOEP was collected in East Germany. Volunteering was still widespread. Due to the shock of the reunion, a large portion of the infrastructure of volunteering (e.g. sports clubs associated with firms) collapsed and people randomly lost their opportunities for volunteering. Based on a comparison of the change in subjective well-being of these people and of people from the control group who had no change in their volunteer status, the hypothesis is supported that volunteering is rewarding in terms of higher life satisfaction.

In his book Flourish: A Visionary New Understanding of Happiness and Well-being, University of Pennsylvania professor Martin Seligman explains that helping others can improve our own lives:

…we scientists have found that doing a kindness produces the single most reliable momentary increase in well-being of any exercise we have tested.

 

Surviving and Thriving and Happiness

Some habits are better to ​pick back up by easing into them instead of diving back in (realize I haven't kept a regular cadence of writings and thoughts here lately). Below is a quick roundup of what's been on my bookshelf. 

1) Surviving and Thriving in a Relationship with an Entrepreneur by Brad Feld
Alright, so I wouldn't say I'm an entrepreneur. Or that I'm dating an entrepreneur. But I started reading Brad Feld's Surviving and Thriving, just one of his books in a larger series on the start-up lifestyle (see Startup Revolution), and I'm incredibly drawn to the topics and arguments him and his wife Amy Batchelor make. They both run their own organizations and run tight schedules. But the essence of the book is finding a work/life balance, and as part of that balance (or really, integral to that balance) is finding a way to continue developing the relationships we have outside of our computer work screens. You don't need to be running your own start-up and dating a likewise entrepreneur to want any of those in your life, so I found the book to be adaptable and enlightening. The examples they give in the book are specific to spousal relationships, but a lot of the tips could be taken to other relationships/friendships. 

A couple of highlights from the book I enjoyed (I'm about halfway through): 

Never Schedule High Priorities Activities or Deadlines on Fridays: Doing so will likely create a scenario that drifts into Friday night, Saturday, and then Sunday. Always be realistic about the ebb and flow of the work cycle.

Have a Life Dinner Once a Month:
 Make a reservation right now at one of your favorite restaurants. Go out--just the two of you. Buy your significant other a gift. Turn off your cell phones and hand them to the other person. Spend a long slow dinner enjoying each other's company.

Four Minutes in the Morning: 
One simple thing that we do that connects and grounds us each morning when we are physically in the same place is to spend four minutes together, making eye contact, and chatting casually about what the day's schedule is and when we might see each other again.

If you want more, I'd suggest his blog as well as his thoughtful reflection on resetting priorities. 

2) Happiness: A Guide to Developing Life's Most Important Skill by Mathieu Ricard
I've been on a bit of a meditation kick for the better half of a quarter of a year (and before that had done a great job at failing at regular meditation). Without going any deeper into that point of conversation than needed, and instead focusing on Mathieu Ricard's book, I've recently come to believe there is merit to developing an ability to define what derives happiness and how to work towards that. 

Even more interesting is Ricard's explicit calling of "happiness" as a skill. As a recent new grad I would say that what I've learned in the past year could easily be divided into items that fit a "hard resume" and a "soft resume". Slot Ricard's concepts and thoughts on mindfulness and meditation under the soft resume. These are skills I find to be incredibly useful in my day-to-day at work (and would imagine them to be useful just about in any job) but might look a little bit awkward under the conventional "Skills and Interests" section of a traditional job resume. 

What worked for me was Ricard's ability to comunicate these concepts from a Western perspective (he grew up in France and prior to moving to Nepal to practice Buddhism full time he was on a promising career track in cellular genetics. The book blends in fascinating psychological studies alongside the traditional wise sayings and practices of true Buddhism. 

​Next Up: Wherever You Go, There You Are by Jon Kabat-Zinn